6'0 Tall wife to Muscle Man, mother of 3, full time career woman, with an addiction to running wherever her size 10's will take her.

Tuesday, January 8, 2013

Baby Bump Ahead



I always thought I would have 3 children.  Not sure why entirely?  I grew up in a family with 3 kids.  Something seemed off to me in families with 2 or less (not passing judgment on anyone, I just wanted 3).  After we had our second child that ‘want’ shifted a bit.  The transition from 1 to 2 was harder than I thought it would be.  I didn’t feel like I had the capacity to be the Mom and Wife I wanted to be.  It didn’t help that our second child did not sleep through the night until age 3.

Once he reached a certain age I felt ready again and tried to convince Muscle Man (the stay-at-home parent) that we were ready to add to our family.    When my Dad died in 2010 it hit home even more, Dad had one brother who died in a motorcycle crash in 2007, a family with 2 kids all gone within a short timeframe.  I thought of my boys and it made me sad.. Around that time a couple of close friends got pregnant…with TWINS!!  MM did not like the trend so we put it off a little more.

When I started my new job I felt like the work/life balance would lead to re-opening the Baby #3 conversation.  And it did.. Soon after I transitioned, hubby was on board and we started “trying.”  Don’t you love how that term is socially accepted?  With the boys we didn’t have to try, in both cases we got pregnant the month prior to what we had planned.  So I just assumed it would work the same way. 

It didn’t, 8 months later and nothing.  I gained empathy, which is never a bad thing.  Every month I was hopeful.  I would convince myself (My heart) that I was having the common pregnancy symptoms, then nothing.. 

We decided early on that we would not intervene.  Not make it technical/clinical.  If it happened it happened.  The “If it is meant to be” approach.  The months passed, I would see pregnant women and babies everywhere.. Every time I saw a Garage Sale full of good baby stuff I would get a surge of excitement, but I couldn’t/shouldn’t buy anything, because what if it didn’t happen??

Come October I had about given up on the idea, I decided to not think about it…. Much easier said than done.  Amazing when you relax about something that your body knows what to do..  I had a dental appointment the same day that I was due to start my cycle.  I didn’t want to have anything done IF there was a chance I was expecting.. so I purchased a test at lunch and used it in the waiting room of the office.  I waited and the line was a faint faint pink…but it was there!!  I took a picture with my phone and sent it to Muscle Man.  He was in denial that any line meant pregnant, he wanted a solid dark line.  We took 4 tests over the next week until we knew..

Last night we had the 12 week ultrasound and the baby was very active which was amazing!!  This may explain to some why my blog has been a bit different in the past few months J  Going forward I will use the blog as a week by week record of my pregnancy and my attempt to keep active. 

Pregnancy Week 12:
*My goal is to walk/run 10-15 miles a week as long as I can.  I am a little behind but will get there.

Miles Run Pregnant: 112

Miles Walked Pregnant: 9

Current Craving: Honey Nut Cheerios and Chicken Pad Thai

Current Aversion: The smell of Steak and Hamburger cooking

Baby Likes: Fruit!!!

Baby dislikes: Peanut butter and chocolate, I want to eat it but feel gross after

Excitement: Seeing the Ultrasound

Gripes: Headaches, fatigue and nausea

Purchases: A onesie on the Christmas clearance rack that says “Who you Calling an Elf?” it was .70 cents


A few people asked on Facebook if we will be finding out the gender.  Yes at 20 weeks, end of February,  if Baby co-operates. 

Do you have any other questions??? Ask away!!

30 comments:

Samantha said...

Congrats! How awesome! Looking forward to reading along about your running while pregnant!

Matthew Pattison said...

Congratulations I'm happy for you. I'm the stay at home dad of my 2 boys (at the moment) I know as soon as my wife gets the feeling we will be trying for number 3 I just hope it's at least a couple of years off yet. Good luck with the runs/walks and the cravings.

Amy N. said...

Congratulations! That is so exciting!

Shannon said...

Congratulations! I understand what you mean about just knowing you wanted three kids. I felt the same way about two. We have two, and that is where I want to be. I'll enjoy living somewhat vicariously through you though with your weekly updates. I have to admit occasionally I think a baby 3 would have been nice. :)

Maureen said...

That explains it! WOW! HUGE Congrats!!!

chasingdownadream said...

Congratulations! :) Great news for you and the rest of the family!!!! Looking forward to following along.

Marathon Lar said...

Congrats Mel!! Can't wait to follow you on your fit pregnancy journey! Are the boys hoping for a little sister or brother?

fancy nancy said...

Oh Mel I am so happy for you and excited for you all!! I am so looking forward to following along on your journey! I have always wanted 3 but I don't know if I can convince the hubs. He loves the baby part...it's the me being big and pregnant and then the after me that is not so appealing to him! I have been avoiding cleaning out Aubrey's newborn clothes from her dresser even though she has outgrown them...it just makes me sad that that part of my life is coming to a close...maybe I'll find a hiding place for them just in case! ;-)

Velma said...

I AM SO EXCITED!!!!!!!!!!!!

jen said...

Oh Mel!! Congratulations! I will be following your journey. Here's to a happy and healthy pregnancy!

Runner Maybe said...

Congrats Mel!!!! It was amazing how many people told me there were trying or secretly pg once I made my annoucment on New Years. The year of babies for sure.

Lilwelly5 said...

Congrats! I am so excited for you. I felt the same way about only having two. I just have one brother and it never felt right. I have three boys and they are amazing. I can't imagine life with only two. I can't wait to read more about your journey of fitness and pregnancy!

Lois B said...

I'm so happy for all of you!

agirlcallededdy said...

I don't religiously read blogs, and I'm a sometimes runner, but happened across this post today. It is hitting home big time. We've got two, and just recently decided to give it a go for #3. I'm scared to death but welcome for whatever happens for our family. Congrats on your news. I'm hoping to be there with you soon! :)

Karen W said...

Congratulations! That is wonderful news.:)

Colleen said...

No questions, but very excited for you. I'm due the beginning of June so I've added you to my "fit momma" blog group! Look forward to following your journey!

Beth said...

Congrats Mel! They are going to out number you and Muscle Man now, what are you going to do?!?! ;)

Andrea said...

CONGRATULATIONS!!! there seem to be a LOT of runner babies goin' on right now - so exciting :) and, from what I hear from friends w/3, the transition from 2 to 3 is WAY easier than the transition from 1 to 2 kiddos!

ajh said...

Congratulations!

Rene' said...

What exciting news Mel! as the Mom of 4 I know that "not being done" feeling. Congrats!

pensive pumpkin said...

As a woman with no children who has gone down the fertility treatment route, I'm here to tell you- you did the right thing. Those drugs can ruin marriages, and it took a while for mine to recover.

With that said, I'm still a weirdo about reading this stuff, so I'm removing you from my reader. I want you to know that it has nothing to do with you personally, I love the blog, and I am happy for you. I don't want you to feel weird about it, and normally I just stop reading without even saying anything. It seems like a jerk move to say a word. If you feel that way, I apologize. Feel free to delete my comment. I understand.

But I have a good reason for risking it- I wanted to congratulate you on your AMAZING handling of a subject most people don't even consider sensitive. I've lost lots of friends over the years just because pregnant women and babies are so emotionally painful for me, and never, really truly never, has anyone expressed their happiness and acknowledged the difficulty in such an amazing way.

That, my dear, is the reason why I'll be back eventually. Though probably not until 2014. Congrats to an amazing person. You deserve this happiness.

onelittletrigirl said...

YEAH!!!! Congrats! I came back to blogging and it seems there will be lots of new babies :)

mia79gbr said...

Congratulations!! :) What lovely news!!

Lisa said...

congratulations :-)

CJ said...

Yay! Congratulations! Looking forward to seeing the newest Tall Baby in the spring :)

Marissa said...

so awesome AND exciting for your growing family! I am having the baby itch, we have two boys and I could sooo go for a third!

Cinthia said...

How cool, another baby--congratulations. And what a great Christmas gift. When I was pregnant with my son the only thing that sounded good was Dinty Moore Beef Stew, and I was a vegetarian, hee, hee.
Have a great and active week.

Tiffany said...

Congrats! I ran with my second kid - I even completed in a 10K during my firs trimester and a 5K at the start of the second. The only reason I stopped running was because I started dealing with back issues. Have fun running while pregnant and just listen to your body. Enjoy!

Shay @ Whine Less, Breathe More said...

Very cool! Congratulations!!

Corrina said...

I'm one of 4 kids and couldn't imagine having less than 3! It's a lot for sure, but it's so amazing too. I love having 3 kids :)