6'0 Tall wife to Muscle Man, mother of 3, full time career woman, with an addiction to running wherever her size 10's will take her.

Wednesday, March 28, 2012

An Open Letter to Myself

Dear Melanie (yes that is my real name hehehe),

There are times in life when things get a little overwhelming, so far in your 32 years of life you have thrived during those times...BUT lately I have noticed that you are starting to let stress and anxiety take over. You are straying from what makes you smile and letting things bother you more than they ever should.

The Tall Mom Blog is your journal, not something that should make you feel pressure when you don't have time to write or get a review done.

Running is your stress relief and your hobby, not something that should cause major guilt when you don't lace up your shoes. Fit it in when you can. Make a plan to help guide you.

At one point in time you had the body, and drive to go FAST, but remember it is OK to enjoy the journey and the company on the run without being chained to the final pace of the run.

You are not 185lbs, you know what you need to do to get there, and if you are not willing to put in the work and avoid bad foods you wont get there. It is OK to be in the 200's regardless of what the BMI charts say. YOU ARE NOT FAT, stop saying it to yourself!!

Work has taken over your LIFE lately, but there is an end in site. You will have a BALANCE soon!!! Do not try to fill the time you gain with "Pie in the Sky" goals. It is good to have downtime, family time.

You do not have to be everything to everyone. It is OK to say no when you are feeling overwhelmed.

To sum it up I feel like you are in a transition phase, a little lost maybe, but getting lost is not the end of the world. Accept that you are a little lost, there may be something you would never find without accepting that you are lost. Find your smile. Find your passion. Find what makes you thrive. DO NOT BEAT YOURSELF UP!!!


Sincerely,

Melanie


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24 comments:

fancy nancy said...

Sending you big hugs!!! Transitions are hard...especially for moms who most of the time have everything just right! Getting lost is scary but sometimes it takes us getting lost to find where we really should be going. I got lost 2 years ago and took a path that was new...I wouldn't change it for the world! You're amazing Mel....just the way you are!!

Madison M. said...

I LOVED this post!! I can relate to you 100% on all of this.. I too have been feeling irritable, stressed, upset, unmotivated... I constantly bager myself when I miss a day of running because something came up and I too need to realize that running does make me happy, its not supposed to stress me out, its supposed to relieve it! Thank you for such a great post today!!

Lynette said...

Love you Mel. Make sure to read this letter back to yourself when you get overwhelmed! <3 Lynette

Jess@themommymiles said...

one thing about your blog that always resonates with me is your struggle and ups and downs. I am so grateful you choose to be real and transparent on your blog. Those posts are the ones that encourage and cause pause.

Heather said...

Oh, Mel(anie ha ha), so many of us can feel your pain, lady. So many of us. Well, with the exception of the fast part. That is one thing I have never been & will probably never be. I have been reminding myself to enjoy the ride more. I blogged about it after the Portland Shamrock run. :)

Jill said...

Well said Mel! I especially like the part of learning something you would not have during this time! Way to look at it that way! You are so close to being done with busy job...so close! Great letter! Thanks for being so honest!

Annette@(running)In the Right Direction said...

I'm thinking i need write that same letter to myself. I'm doing the same thing with running and my blog! AGH so in a rut with all of this...let us know the steps you take to get out!

Sara said...

Thanks for being so REAL! It helps more than you know:)

Jess @ Blonde Ponytail said...

Hang in there Mel! This is a great reminder and I hope you follow YOUR advice!

Michelle said...

Sending hugs Mel!!! Hang in there and, as Jess said, be sure to follow your own advice (it's good stuff!)

Rene' said...

Needed this post today. I am just back at work and still doing all of my mom/wife things. sometimes there are just not enough hours in the day. I definitely get overwhelmed and then my run/etc...suffers. I am taking the time to step back and just enjoy.
always remember how awesome you are Mel!!!

Jenny said...

Love your post today. You could probably leave the name blank because so many of us are there or have been there. Don't beat yourself up, in the end it's counterproductive. Sending smiles!

TNTcoach Ken said...

Woman, get your butt in gear! Put a smile back on your face, we've all had our moments. What's BMI???? LLO.........

~K~ said...

High Five to you, Tall Mom! Love reading your inspirational blog posts....but please feel no pressure to post. I love that you put family first, which is always a good reminder to me to get off this computer and go hug my little ones! Keep doing what you're doing!

Shellyrm ~ just a country runner said...

Sometimes it is while we are lost that we find we weren't on the right path to begin with.

Enjoy seeing the view from which ever angle fits into your life today...and then again tomorrow...and the day after. It might take some time to find a trail that feels just right. I'll be here ready to cheer you on. Just like you did for me. You are a beautiful person!

Christina said...

You are doing what is most important... Family time. Never feel guilty about that. Sometimes the family time is what recharges us in order to spend time on ourselves. Love your time.... Whatever it may be.

Kristin Miller said...

You will always know, deep down what you NEED. Move from "should" to "want to" and go from there. Xoxo

Elizabeth said...

I can relate to you on the transition/balancing phase - I've gone through some big changes as well and I'm still trying to figure everything out. Feeling lost is a good way to put it. Hopefully things will come together in the upcoming months as we adjust to our new environments. Thanks for sharing! And please don't beat yourself up - something wonderful will emerge for you during this journey.

Lisa said...

Melanie - you are an amazing person and we are all better people for knowing you (even if only through the blogosphere)!

I think I need to sit down and write myself a letter like this. Might do me some good.

Take care!

Megan said...

I liked reading this, Melanie. It is way too easy to let the things in life that we care less about take over from the things we really care about. It's all about balance, and finding that is sometimes hard. Running is fun, that's why we do it. I've been stressed about running before and it is HORRIBLE! That's when the Garmin needs to stay at home and we go for runs with friends! :)

Elizabeth said...

hugs!! i can relate 100%. hopefully it will all slow down and you can catch up and get where you need to be. and p.s. I hate BMI calculators. I think they are the devil and put nasty little thoughts in your head (obviously have the same issue :) )

Lala Mama said...

Thinking of you...sometimes balance is so hard. But as you say, it's only temporary now, it WILL get better. *hugs*

Sue's Ramblings said...

Be strong Mel!

Kayla said...

I know how you feel right now. School is taking over my life and leaving me with no desire for anything else like running because i am so exhausted. Balance is definitely a hard one to figure it sometimes, but I have confidence you will find it back soon! :)