6'0 Tall wife to Muscle Man, mother of 3, full time career woman, with an addiction to running wherever her size 10's will take her.

Friday, September 23, 2011

Shifting Gears

There are days when you are cruising along, all is well, the wind is in your hair.... then there are days when your path is blocked by something you did not expect and you have to shift gears.

This week has been one of those weeks for me and my House Full of Boys. Monday was Muscle Man's birthday and I was poised for the busiest week of my career at my Big Girl Job. Mid way through the day I got a call, it was Muscle Man, his real Dad in Arkansas had died. He was not close to his Father for various reasons, but this still came as a TOTAL SHOCK.

I had to work

I had to get home and take care of my husband

I did all I could at the office, tears dripping down my cheeks and went home. ALL of the balls I was juggling, all my work left for someone to take over.. I had to be with my family.

I SHIFTED GEARS

This week I balanced being a single parent and dealt with the sadness of a smaller role in the job I was so excited to do and had worked so hard for.. I supported Muscle Man from afar. I leaned on Tall Grandma and Tall Sister to take care of me...and they were WONDERFUL! THANK YOU!! And I must say our boys were pretty awesome too.. Last night they made me LAUGH at the store playing a game with the patterns on the ground.

And tonight Little Stud #1 said "Mommy how long does it take to get to the Finish Line?" I said "Depends on how long the race is." He replied in the sweetest matter of fact voice "Yes but if you Finish first you get a token." It melted my heart. This week has been ROUGH, but I made the most of it with the support of my family, friends and co-workers.

What does this have to do with running?

Just when you think you are cruising along there may be something that forces you to shift gears. Possibly an injury, busy schedule or change of seasons. You can either stop and get rusty, or find a way to make the best out of the situation and find a new path.

......Or you may be in a rut, holding for too long in the same gear....maybe it is time to shift gears to test your range beyond the comfortable? You never know what you may find.



  • How have you had to or chose to shift gears??

16 comments:

XLMIC said...

LOVE you :)

Getting hurt and not even being able to walk like a normal person forced me to shift gears. Boy, did it suck. And I had to choose to rise above the sadness and the pain and persevere.

TMB @ RACING WITH BABES said...

Hugs and love to you all!

I don't think I've found my gear for much of anything. The ones I'm in are fine, but a little off. Need to find the perfect ones ...

Kristin Miller said...

Thanks for posting this! This has been my busiest week and set me back 5 days of training...oh and the NYC marathon is 43 days away, so for my OCD self this is NOT the time to skip training! Work has literally taken up my time 12-14 hours a day the entire week. Thanks for suggesting to switch gears. Gotta get through this strong!

Shellyrm ~ just a country runner said...

Praying for your family.

Everything is shifting in our family...in a positive direction! It's been a looong time coming!

Meredith said...

Praying for you guys!

Shifting gears seems like a way of life with 5 kids - sick kids, busy kids, sick mama, busy mama...

But, this summer I got the biggest shift when we ended up spending most of July away from home so we could be with my brother before he passed. While I got the miles in, they became therapeutic miles rather than training miles. My goals for the 1/2 I was training for went out the window and I had to learn to be okay with that. I wouldn't change anything about how it worked out and know that had I not shifted gears, I absolutely would have.

Amanda said...

I'm so sorry for your family's loss.

I'm in the midst of shifting gears right now and it feels really good and really right.

Rene' said...

Oh no thinking of you guys.
I need to shift gears and am having a really hard time. There is really now way around it so I need to just get with the program and stop feeling sorry for myself:(

chattynatty said...

Choosing sanity in running/training over running a marathon last year. The year before I became so bitchy during my long training runs for marathon in october. Last year I wanted to be happier so I chose to run a 1/2 instead- great experience- missed breaking 2 hour mark by 1 minute- which is fast for me.

This break helped me get back to happier state and my training for this year's marathon has gone much better.

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Elizabeth said...

So sorry to hear about your family's loss! Hugs for a rough week!! I hope this next one is much better for you!

When my company began downsizing due to the economic downturn, I managed survive the first round of massive layoffs. Unfortunately, it wasn't long after that it became my turn and I lost my job. Being so career driven and goal oriented, it was devastating, and not being able to find a job immediately after was even worse. I ended up going back to school, a decision I don't regret, but now I'm in limbo again since I finished my studies in May. I'm hoping something works out! Otherwise, I may be forced to shift gears again.

Marissa said...

((Hugs)) to all of you.

and such a true post...

Kadie @ There She Runs said...

~hugs~

I had to switch gears this year, twice. two different gears. The first was when the hubs landed the new job that would send him to the other side of the country for 6 months (yay, he'll be back in 3 weeks!). This meant not doing any halfs this year. I am relying on family enough to help me out with my single parenthood status and I chose not to impose extra time so I could do long runs. The second was my health. I had a rough Spring due to the diagnosis of Pulmonary Hypertension and this has altered my training a lot. Especially since they wouldn't even let me run for 3 months. But it's life and you just roll with the punches and try a new gear!

Marlene said...

I'm sorry for the loss and glad you were able to spend the weekend with your family. Hugs to all of you!

Jess @ Blonde Ponytail said...

Wish I could've been there for you! Such a great point/post. How do we "react" to the changes in our paths?

You are amazing. Glad your honey is home.

Bonnie said...

I'm supposed to run my first marathon on 23 October (Venice, Italy), but one of our dogs was diagnosed with lymphoma last week. All my attention/focus is on that right now & I have no idea if I'll be able to finish out my training. And the thing is: I'm not sad about it. Family comes first & sometimes it forces us to shift gears, I guess.

Stephanie said...

Ooo gosh I am so sorry to hear this. But thank you for some perspective. It was really helpful and needed.