6'0 Tall wife to Muscle Man, mother of 3, full time career woman, with an addiction to running wherever her size 10's will take her.

Sunday, October 24, 2010

To Run and Missing Boston

Thank you from the bottom of my heart... your comments have lifted my spirits. I ran 7 miles in 59:03 for my Dad with my friend Tammy. Tammy who I met through Fleet Feet training. Tammy whose amazing husband James was the pastor for my Dad's funeral. I felt weak.. I felt strong... We talked about Dad, family, life.... then I asked her to help me escape for a few minutes. Escape my sadness... She told me about her Marathon on 10-10 where she qualified for BOSTON!! For 5 miles I listened as she talked about overcoming mental obstacles during her Marathon.. She said I was with her on the run.. We got to 59 minutes and STOPPED.. Then she prayed as we walked to the cars, it was just what I needed. I have not had the strength to run more than 2 miles since.

I did not run the Half Marathon on my plan for Saturday.. It was the best decision I could have made. I was, and still am, totally exhausted physically and mentally. As much as I wanted to dedicate the miles to Dad I could not race. LESSON: Know when you need to take a break...

Speaking of Boston... On Monday 10-18 the registration for Boston opened. During that time I was with my family selecting a grave site, picking out a casket, making all the arrangements to celebrate and honor my amazing father..It was one of the hardest days of my life...At 2PM I went to register but it was too late. Boston had SOLD OUT. I was sad, disappointed and angry..but I could not have gotten there any sooner. I quickly got over it and realized that everything happens for a reason. If I am meant to run Boston 2011 I will, if not, I will make the most out of whatever comes next... Maybe a fun race like Dublin or NYC :)

  • I hope that you are all doing well. Stay focused on what REALLY MATTERS in life. Do not let time pass without offering a smile, a hug, a gesture of kindness. You create your own Legacy..

30 comments:

onelittletrigirl said...

You create your own legacy...


... I love that!


Sending hugs from NJ

Amanda said...

For those who trust in the Lord will renew their strength.
They will soar on wings like eagles, they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not grow faint.

Trust that the one who holds your father now hears the desires of your heart, he will get you to Boston :)

Erika said...

I'm glad you were able to run for 59 minutes today. What an amazing tribute. I hope you hear from Boston soon!
Hugs!
Erika

Shawna said...

Congrats on the run!!

As for Boston, they aren't very helpful if you don't get in. I had a friend whose husband died and she didn't get registered, and they told her "try next year." Have you looked at the charity list? Maybe there's a cause that your dad would have felt strongly about - maybe you could fund raise in his honor?

Eryn said...

So glad you have an amazing friend to lift you up right now with the perfect run. So thankful she was there to pray for you...Praying for your heart to heal and be flooded with amazing memories of your dad.

Amanda said...

I'm new to the blogging world so I hope you don't think it creepy of me to post on your site. I'm so sorry to hear about your father passing and I'm sorry to hear about Boston. Blessings to you. Thank you for your wonderful words on this site...I've enjoyed reading so far.

Tortuga_Runner said...

Prayers are going your way. May your heart soon find peace and your father's memory be for a blessing.

fancy nancy said...

You are in my prayers each day!

I will ask some of my friends about Boston and the best way to get in.

Laura said...

Of late I have been trying to ensure I don't take things in my life for granted and you just continue to enforce this.
Sending you and the family continued best wishes and strenght..

Marlene said...

Aw Mel, I am so sorry that you missed registration.

A friend of ours did not register in time and has decided to go the charity route. I think he has to raise $3500. I know it was a ton of work last time, but I do believe you could raise enpoigh funds to get in - especially if you share your story. This way, you may end up running in a chartiy but but you still know that you QUALIFIED to be there.

{{hugs}}

ShutUpandRun said...

I think it is beautiful the way that you and your family have honored your dad. I know you are sad and will be. Although you celebrate your dad and what an amazing man he was, I'm sure you miss his physical prescence terribly. I am so sorry about Boston. Maybe they will make an exception for our circumstane. But if not, keep an eye on what is most important right now - grieving, remembering, supporting your family and letting them support you.

Hugs and sending healing thoughts.

Michelle said...

Mel sending you so many hugs. I'm sorry that on top of all that you are dealing with that Boston didn't work out.

Take care of yourself.

Alili said...

Many hugs to you and your family.

marathonmaiden said...

hugs hugs and more hugs! i hope you make it into boston so i can give you a real life hug! (i hope that doesn't sound creepy hahah!)

Stacie said...

I've been thinking of you daily. I was so bummed that you missed Boston. You deserve to go. I will write an email for you. It can't hurt. I hope you get in. I'm so thankful that you have an amazing family to help you during this time. I'm always here if you need me. Big hugs.

Angie Bee said...

there were more important things to do than register for a race and you were wise enough to know that.
When your heart heals in time, you will race again dear.
Keep your chin up. The intensity will pass, just hang on...or let go, whichever perspective suits the day.

L.B. said...

I'm sorry to hear about life's challenges. You're such an inspirational and upbeat person that it's upsetting to me that you have to deal with all of this and to top it all of miss out on Boston :(

Hang in there, Mel. You'll continue to be an inspiration even if you don't run Boston in 2011.

Veronica said...

Mel,
I'm so sorry for your loss. Take all the time you need. Races can wait. People can wait. Everything DOES happen for a reason, you're right about that.

When the time comes to race again, be it Boston or not, your feet will be lighter because your father's memory will be holding them up.

~Veronica

Katie A. said...

I would be the first to give you a donation if you go that way!

I've been thinking about you and your family tons, I wish I could give you a big hug and run with you.

You're being smart in your greiving, running will be thre when you're ready. Hang in there, enjoy those two cute baby boys of yours and that awesome hubbs you have!
Big hug to you!

Lesley @ racingitoff.com said...

What a great tribute with your 59 minute run.

Virtual hugs. I can't even begin to fathom.

misszippy said...

I've been thinking about you and your situation lately. I'm sure your run was one baby step towards the healing process, one that is sure to be long and bumpy. Sending you hugs and prayers.

TNTcoach Ken said...

Mel, it does get better with time!

shellyrm aka jogging stroller mama said...

There's no set PACE in the healing process. As a runner, I am sure you'll not like that part. It simply takes time to travel the distance. But then again, that is probably a lot like many of your runs. It just took time to travel the distance and you probably learned a few things along the way.
Praying your journey is a healing one.

Wifey said...

Your run with your friend sounds wonderful. Stay strong and take care of you! We're all here to keep you uplifted.

Hugs, prayers and smiles,
Wifey

momof3 said...

I agree that NOT running that half was a good idea. By the way, I think that whole missing Boston registration is a sign you're supposed to come run National with me & TMB and oh yea, it's a boston qualifier if you decide to go for it again. Think on it, it's not going to sell out in 18 minutes. Sending you some hugs from the other coast...

*I have things I have thought about saying to you, but I keep coming back to, "its not going to come out right on e-mail or blog or facebook", so just know that you're never far from my thoughts these days, and I am praying for you & your crew.

Jess "Blonde Pony" said...

Qualifying for Boston is a feat in itself. You will get your opportunity one day if it doesn't happen this May.

Sending prayers your way.

Velma said...

I have been thinking of you as I have been at a funeral this week. Take care. There will be tons of other races in your bright future.

Bethany + Ryan said...

Hi Mel, i hope you and your family are doing okay, i've been thinking about you guys a lot. Glad you got out for a run, your friends/family all sound so nice and supportive!

the dawn said...

Thoughts and prayers with you.

shenx said...

Run with your friends and family is a great bonding all of you. Thanks for the post.
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