6'0 Tall wife to Muscle Man, mother of 3, full time career woman, with an addiction to running wherever her size 10's will take her.

Wednesday, October 20, 2010

Finding my Words and Strength

With the help of Tall Grandma and Tall Sister we found the words to tribute Tall Grandpa... below is an editted version of the Obituary..


Heaven needed a handyman. John passed suddenly at the age of 59 on Sat. Oct. 16th. John was raised in Fircrest, WA, graduated from Wilson High School in 1969 and attended University of Puget Sound. A long time resident of Bonney Lake, WA. In life John was a loving husband, caring father and playful grandfather. After 30 years at Seafreeze he retired, days were spent with family, travelling in the motor home, rock hounding, mushroom hunting, cooking on the BBQ and restoring his 54 Studebaker. John always wore a smile and gave amazing hugs. He is survived by his wife of 34 years, his children and grandsons. In Heaven every Opal has fire



I did not have the strength to run.. My energy and will to lace up was gone.. the boys kept saying "Want to go in the jogging stroller!" So we drank some coffee and went out as a family. It felt so good to be out running. Dad was always so proud of my athletics.. He went to every game and track meet and kept a close tally on my stats. Years later he could quote my game highs, remembering down to the last rebound. He was glued to the computer screen the day of my first Marathon, he offered to watch the Little Studs. Dad took a picture of the computer screen when I finished.

Yesterday I reflected during those 2 miles. I will miss him every day, but he is in a better place, Heaven. And Dad would want me to keep moving...today I will meet with my running friend Tammy. Her husband James will be the pastor at Dad's Celebration of Life. I met her on the run, who knew that our connection would lead to her husband playing such an important role.


We will run 59 minutes for Dad!!!

  • What have you done today to show those you love how much you care? Live life to the fullest, cherish the moments!!

46 comments:

Julie @ "Hotlegs Runner" said...

This post brought tears to my eyes. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this difficult time.

*Hugs*

H Love said...

praying that those 59 minutes are full of healing, love and comfort. love to you!

Julie D. said...

Mel, praying for strength in the days ahead. I can't imagine your loss. May your Dad's celebration of life be just that. He sounds like an amazing man.

RB Barb said...

So, so sorry to hear this news, Mel. Hang in there.

marathonmaiden said...

((hugs)) again and my thoughts are still with you and your family. do you label all your family members as tall? are they all really tall? (i only ask because i'm really tall but it's not that big of a trend in my family) sorry if that's a random question!

lish said...

that was a beautiful post...I am sending thoughts and prayers to you and your entire family...

kimert said...

My eyes filled with tears as I read this beautiful tribute to your Dad. Many hugs!

Marlene said...

What a touching tribute to a wonderful man - both the obituary and the 59 minutes in his honor. Continued strength to you during this sad and difficult time. :(

Stacie said...

A very beautiful tribute to your amazing Dad. I hope your run brings you peace and a sense of closeness to him. Know that he will be with you always. Big hugs Mel.

Meredith said...

Beautiful tribute. Praying...

JenniferLeah said...

beautiful~
your Dad has such warmth in his smile. what a touching tribute

Jess "Blonde Pony" said...

What a beautiful tribute to your father, Mel. I have tears reading this post and thinking of the loss of a father. Keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.

Kate said...

Thank goodness for our kids...they won't let us sink too far because they still need us and force us to keep on moving. The team obituary was wonderfully done, and your dad sounds like he was a wonderful man and father. Hugs to you and your family.

Aimee said...

This was a beautiful tribute post for your dad. He sounded like a wonderful man! I'm sure your dad will be watching down on you and smiling as you run today!

shellyrm aka jogging stroller mama said...

You might remember that my father passed away young also. I can only say, I wish you didn't have to feel what you are feeling. I will be praying for you all and wishing I could be here to offer a quiet shoulder or an extra pair of arms to hug.
I ran this morning and thought about skipping tonight since I had no "real" reason to run more miles. But tonight I will run for 59 minutes with you and I will be praying and thinking about you all and remembering my own Dad. Oh our Daddys! How special God made them!!

Stephanie said...

I just read about your dad and feel sooo horrible! He looks and seemed like such a gentle and kind man, and someone that will be forever missed!
Prayers are with you and your family during this hard time! God Speed!

Nicole said...

I read this post earlier, then I thought of it when I drove by UPS today and saw some college kids jogging the track, and this sprung to mind:
I'm sure any parent would want to see their childen continuing any passion they admired in you despite their passing. Your dad admired you, and your passion through his love for you. He is proud of your acheivements and would never want you to give up.

Tricia said...

hugs and prayers to you and your family

Pemberton Family said...

Mel, you made me cry. My heart breaks for you but I also love that you have a relationship with God and know that your dad is in a great place. That is so comforting, praying for you!! This was well written and your memories with your dad will carry you through your lifetime. God Bless.

Carolyn

runningwithababyonboard said...

I'm so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

Melissa said...

I have been praying for peace and understanding for your family and will continue to do so. I wish all of us in blogland could show up and give you a big hug.

Lisa said...

Mel, I am so sorry! I am just catching up and am saddened to read your posts. Over the past year as I've read your blog, I've seen how much your family means to you and the amazing things your parents do for you and your family. I am certain he will be remembered by many more than you even know because it is clear that he had a kind and gentle soul and would help anyone. It is good to think of the wonderful times and to continue running in his honor. I'll be thinking of you and your entire family.

Michelle said...

Lots of hugs and prayers to you and your family Mel.

Jennifer P said...

Thinking of you and I too will run 59 minutes tomorrow in your dad's honor.

Megan said...

I have been trying to find the words and the strength, too, as my grandfather passed away this weekend. You're in my thoughts.

Leah @ Chasing Atalanta said...

Reading this made me think of my own father. Whether on the sidelines of a race, or the sidelines of my life, he's always been there for me. Like your father was for you. Thinking of you.

MomRunningFromCancer said...

continued prayers are being directed to you and your family.

((((((Hugs))))))

Whitney said...

Mel, I'm so sorry to hear of your family's loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

5 Miles 2 Empty said...

Something about dad's...I remember you telling me about him watching your marathon on the computer! Very impressive! Your smile is pretty much identical to his. It's great!!!

So glad you got out to run. I think it can be so peaceful. Now you will always have a running buddy.

Thinking of you!!!

Wifey said...

What a beautiful tribute - your words and your 59 minute run. So glad that you are moving. Take care of you. Sending love and prayers.

Hugs,
Wifey

Candice @ I Have Run said...

What a wonderful tribute. I will pray for you to have the strength you need in the coming days!

Zaneta said...

I cried during this post! It reminded me of the time my grandma passed away.. I will continue praying for you and your family!

racing dawn said...

i'm so sorry for your loss. he really was way too young. i'm wishing you strength in your days to come. running can help bring such clarity and quiet time of reflection. it will definitely help. prayers are with you and your family...

Karla said...

I'm terribly sorry for your loss. I praying for you and your family to have comfort in this time of sadness. Thanks for the reminders to Cherish every day.

Denise said...

can't even imagine what you're going through. and it seems so silly to say i hope you're ok, when i know that's almost impossible. hang in there and know you're dad is with you always.

Christy said...

sniff, sniff. That was beautiful.

((HUGS))

http://christy-goingthedistance.blogspot.com/

Lindsey said...

I've never met my father, but hearing about yours made me wish that I'd had one as great as you. I cannot imagine how hard this must be, but I hope that you have all the love and support that you need right now. <3

The Happy Runner said...

Oh, Mel -- I am SO very sorry about your loss. I can't imagine what you must be going through but I wish you peace and please know that I'm thinking of you and your family.

Take care of yourself,

Felice

Katie A. said...

Thinking about you lots this week and today. You were a lucky girl to have such a gread daddy. Love the obit and your 59 mins.
((((((HUGS))))))

Katie A. said...

Thinking about you lots this week and today. You were a lucky girl to have such a gread daddy. Love the obit and your 59 mins.
((((((HUGS))))))

Katie A. said...

Thinking about you lots this week and today. You were a lucky girl to have such a gread daddy. Love the obit and your 59 mins.
((((((HUGS))))))

Janet said...

So sorry for your loss. Thinking of you and your entire family thru this difficult time and beyond. Your advice to cherish every moment has hit home with me. I am going to try harder to bridge the distance that spans between my own family!

JF said...

I am so incredibly sorry for your loss.....there are no words that can even begin to make you feel better....but it will someday feel less horrible. I lost my dad 4 years ago (he was 51) and some days my heart still feels raw and tattered. But thinking of all the good memories makes me smile again. Thoughts and prayers to your family....and keep on running....your Dad is watching from heaven now!

Cynthia O'H said...

What a wonderful tribute to your father. Your 59 minute run is a beautiful idea. I hope it brought some peace to you.

Colleen said...

Super big hugs to you! What a fabulous tribute to your dad...

Robin said...

Oh, Mel. I'm so sorry for your loss, just learning of it today as I read through your blog. My tears are flowing as I read your beautiful tribute to your dad. God clearly needed your dad and he's in a better place, though I know it's painful for those left behind.

Love, hugs, and prayers to you and the Tall Mom family. Special hugs for your mom.