6'0 Tall wife to Muscle Man, mother of 3, full time career woman, with an addiction to running wherever her size 10's will take her.

Tuesday, August 17, 2010

Derailed

There are times when you are on track, zooming along in life, running, and everything in between.. Then..

BAM!!!!!

Derailed, off track, without a clear path to get back to where you were before. Last week I was thrown a HUGE CURVE. On Saturday night we got the call that Muscle Man's Dad's cancer had returned and he was in the ICU and sedated. Muscle Man quickly headed to Spokane to be with his 3 Tall Brothers.... HMMMM Tall Mom alone, NOT GOOD!!

Thankfully Tall Sister and Tall Grandparents hopped in to help with the Little Studs (LOVE YOU ALL MORE THAN WORDS CAN SAY). As the week went on I realized that in order to get out of the office at a decent hour I would have to work through lunch. NO RUN AT LUNCH. And I did not want to take advantage of my WONDERFUL childcare.. NO RUN AFTER WORK. My mileage and focus took a major hit. I was PUMPED for the Half Marathon Saturday with the Amazing Emily as my pacer....BUT....I also really wanted to see Tall Army Grandpa, I could not forgive myself if he passed and I did not say goodbye, the plan was to work until Tall Sister had to leave on Friday then set off to Spokane.

On Friday the Little Studs got sick, TRACK DERAILED AGAIN!! The plan got foiled, I could not get everyone sick when they needed to be in the ICU with TAG. That night Muscle Man asked me to look up flights but I really needed to be there. So at 8:00am Saturday, when I should have been leaving for my Half Marathon, I set off kiddos in tow to Spokane. NO LONG RUN NO RACE.. It was worth it to hold his hand and pray by his bed. ****Tall Army Grandpa remains in the ICU with no change in his condition, if you pray please have Ron in your prayers, Muscle Man would truly love to see his Dad awake and alive..

WHY AM I TELLING YOU THIS?
Last week I got DERAILED. But today is a new day. I cannot dwell on last week, and I WILL NOT focus on what I did not do. I THINK I CAN GET BACK ON TRACK!!

  • With 2 weeks at about 18 miles I was feeling BEHIND on the 80 miles in August challenge. So I checked Dailymile HERE (Be my friend if you are not).. I am at 41 miles as of 8/16. Just where I need to be!!
  • Have you ever been derailed by vacation, illness, work, or life in general? What did you do to get back on track?

HAPPY TUESDAY!!

54 comments:

funderson said...

boy oh boy I really needed this today. I'm SO so sorry about TAG.

*~* *~* *~* *~* *~* Tracy said...

I'm so sorry to hear about TAG. We will pray for him and for you guys, too.

Nathan said...

Prayers are with TAG and your family.

Zaneta said...

Im so sorry to here about TAG... you all will bein my prayers!

kimert said...

I am so sorry to hear about the news. I will definitely be praying for your family. My dad has recently been diagnosed with cancer and just finished treatments. I cannot imagine the pain you guys are going through with your situation. Prayers for strength and healing!

Derailed? I am way behind my 80 miles for the month. Since the challenge started I think I *may* have 10 miles in. My daughter has been sick 3 different times which has kept me from the gym and no outdoor running due to the heat and hubby being at football practice until well beyond dark thirty. :( So, like you said... it's a new day and a new week. My plan is to just pick up today and do my best!

marathonmaiden said...

i've definitely been derailed before. it's not fun but you're so right about today being a new day! i'm sending lots of positive vibes to you and your family.

Meredith said...

Tears in my eyes for you and your family. I know all to well what it's like to be derailed by cancer and illness. My brother is currently in the hospital doing 2 rounds of high dose chemo and stem cell transplant. Treating his cancer for the 3 summer in a row. And this is just the most recent of trials...

Sometimes, when derailed, I just pick right back up where I left off. Often times, being derailed is hard mentally, but I find physically, it's just what my body needs. And other times, I push through, running for my brother. Running in the early morning quiet. Talking to God.

My heart aches for you and you can count on my prayers!

Aimee (I Tri To Be Me) said...

Oh...I'm so sorry to hear about Ron. I will keep him in my thoughts and prayers.

Laurie said...

So sorry to hear about your father-in-law. He and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.

It's hard to get back on track after any derailment but as long as you have the desire to do it, with just a little bit of extra hard work, you'll be rolling along again without any trouble. Hang in there. :)

Andrew Opala said...

Hang in there. Pick your spots to pass the bad stuff, and patiently hold out with the stuff you can't. Life isn't supposed to be easy but it should have sense. I wish you much sense in all the chaos, and a chance to be grateful for everything you have.

In terms of derailing - give yourself a timeline to accomplish only half of what you wanted for an extended period - a month for example. Then after the month of 1/2 accomplishments is done get back to a full schedule.

Amanda - RunToTheFinish said...

praying for tall army gpa ... maybe you actually needed a week off, I know you've been posting about being a little under the weather.. so hopefully this next week will just be rocking running and good health

Chelsea said...

My thoughts are with TAG..cancer is the worst.

I am derailed right now - was so excited to get back to training for Yo Go Girl, but now I have a sprained, swollen ankle. I spent most of last night in bed with my ankle elevated, staring at my running gear. :( Lame.

Cynthia O'H said...

So sorry to hear about TAG. Family is always first; they're your supports and know it's your turn to support the men in your life.

Sarah Woulfin said...

Sending healthful thoughts, and please take care.

Lisa said...

You just need to put life in perspective. Some things are more important than training for a race. You did the right thing. :-)

shellyrm aka jogging stroller mama said...

Mel I am praying for your family and Ron. Holding his hand will mean more to you in life than running any amount of miles. I know this from experince. And while we can not stop living because life challenges us and our families, it certainly helps to remind us to appreciate those around us and what we chose to do with our time.
There is always a reason and a plan. I pray your family finds comfort in the truth.

Michelle said...

So very sorry to hear about Ron. Keeping him and all of you in my thoughts.

Marlene said...

I'm so sorry to hear about MM's dad. Keeping you all in my thoughts and sending strength during this difficult time.

Suzy said...

Hugs to you and yours. I'll keep all in my prayers. Have I ever been derailed? Yes, I think everyone has. Sometimes it is easy to get back on the wagon and other times not so easy. One of the not so easy times was when my dad had cancer. Take it a day at a time and see how things go. It is out of your hands and in your prayers now. Take care.

runsher said...

Praying for you and your family.

You haven't been derailed from your running. Instead, you have been given a break. You'll be stronger and even more focused when you continue to log miles.

Melissa said...

Praying for you guys. :)

Katie A. said...

Big hug to you for holding it all together and I'm praying for you and your family! You are amazing for staying positive - keep it up, that is how to get through it :)

Megan said...

I'm sorry. That's tough. Unfortunately, we don't get any warning when things like this creep up on us.

Zoë said...

Thinking of you and your fam, Mel. Hang in there!

J said...

Hope your husband's father heals and gets back to full strength. Keeping your family in my prayers!!

Java Joggers said...

Prayers coming your way!

Nurse Becky said...

It's interesting that you chose to write this today of all days. I just wrote on my blog about needing a change to jump-start my life again. I recently moved 1/2 way across the country and have been in a rut ever since. I'm actually looking forward to people's responses becuase I haven't figured out how to get myself out yet.

Angie Bishop said...

sending some positive vibes your way. I have been derailed lately with the anemia and I just have to step back, re prioritize, make my top priorities to take care of myself so I can then take care of my family and let every thing else go for a while. Just keep moving forward the best you can and try not to panic.

Chin up mama it will get better down the line. You are such a good wife and mother :)

H Love said...

I am praying for TAG and you guys! I don't think you were derailed at all....you were where you needed to be. Running isn't tehe priority...people are! Long runs and races will always be there waiting and you will be in a better place the next time you run. TALL HUGS to you all! (I would need to get a stool for sure)

Tricia said...

I'll be praying for him and the whole family

mostlyfitmom said...

That sure sucks. Sending good thoughts your way! Sounds like you've got your priorities straight.

LMC said...

Sorry to hear about TAG. My thoughts are with him and your family. Hang in there!

onelittletrigirl said...

My love, thoughts, hugs and prayers to you and your family. <3

run with Jill said...

Sorry to hear about this. I read this post earlier then thought of you and your family on my run. My prayers are with you.
In the grand scheme of life, putting off a run or race is minor. You will get back on track as soon as you can. I'm always so thankful that I can run in the first place.
Life is always full of surprises and curve balls. Stay strong!

Jamie said...

I'm sorry this is happening. It is always very stressful when someone gets sick. :( But you're doing great. Sometimes life gets you down, and thankfully you seem to be doing really well getting back up again. Take it one day at a time!

MomRunningFromCancer said...

Saying a prayer for your family. Being with family was so much more important than a run. There will always be more runs . . . but only one family. ;-)

I am trying to not get derailed this week - right before the 1/2 marathon. Son had his wisdom teeth pulled on monday and hubby had back surgery this morning. I need to run - but that will wait until tomorrow.

Take Care!

ajh said...

Good luck to all of you.

Funnyrunner said...

First, I hope he's gonna be okay. Second, yes; I can completely identify with derailment (and I LOVE your Thomas photo - perfect!). I only did about 15 miles all of last week and haven't gotten my long run (17-18 miles) in the past TWO weekends... the good news is that it takes a full 2 weeks for us to lose any of the fitness we've gained, and that actually a break can be VERY good for you. You'll get on track again and you'll feel wonderful and stronger from the break. Sorry you couldn't do your half. :( The good news is that there are events ALL the time, so keep your good attitude and go after the next one!

Kayla said...

so sorry to hear about TAG. I will definitely be praying for him and the rest of your family.

MCM Mama said...

Thinking of you and your family!! Prayers and positive thoughts heading TAG's way.

Rachel said...

Will keep you and your family in my prayers. Sometimes running just has to take a backseat to life, and that's ok. Like you said, today is a new day! Keep your head up Mel : )

5 Miles 2 Empty said...

I'm praying for TAG and the whole family! I know it is rough...

I am certain you will get back on track! I have been derailed more times than I can count...in Dec/Jan/Feb I was derailed big time! Then again in July for THREE weeks! I just came back with a new appreciation for my health and for being active and the ability to run! Sometimes life happens and you just can't get it done, but in the long run it helps us to really appreciate the times we are able to get out there and take care of ourselves! You can do this, Mel!! Hang in there!

mommaof3ontherun said...

anyone with kids gets derailed from time to time. Other life things come up too. You did the right thing. Prayers coming your way...life has a way of reminding us of what is most important!

Hunnybee said...

Sorry about TAG getting sick again. Your family is in my thoughts and prayers.

Good Luck getting the runs in again.

Sarah said...

My thoughts are with you and your family. (HUGS)

amomontherun said...

Oh Tall Mom! I'm so sorry for your recent derailment! It seems life always seems to throw us curve balls when we least expect it.

I am a praying one, and I'll be praying for Ron and your entire family. May you all be filled with peace and comfort in these days!

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LookingUpAgain said...

I just found your blog through Katye at Long Legs on the Loose and am very sad to see this post. I hope TAG recovers and I will send prayers for your family in these times. Your train will find the track again.

Irene said...

Yes, sending a lot of prayers!

Erika said...

I'm really sorry to hear about your troubles! will keep him in our thoughts:)

Lisa said...

I'm so sorry to hear this; I will definitely pray for him and all of your family.

I was derailed earlier this year when I was laid off. It was very, very difficult and I went through the whole range of emotions. But, I kept at it and I just started my new job on Tuesday. Life does throw curve balls our way, but it's all about perspective and not giving up.

Best wishes to you all.

Deb said...

I'm sorry to hear your bad news. I hope that everything works out for the best.

I think one way of looking at it is that you can fall back into habits. It is so easy to fall back into bad habits. Why not let ourselves fall back into the good ones?

Life happens, but you are in the habit of getting in those runs and training. Consider it a habit you can fall back into whether you like it or not. (Of course you do like it!)

The Happy Runner said...

So sorry about your husband's father :-(

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