6'0 Tall wife to Muscle Man, mother of 3, full time career woman, with an addiction to running wherever her size 10's will take her.

Sunday, July 11, 2010

What you THINK

I was putzing around on the computer and decided to go on MySpace because there are a bunch of old pictures on there that our old computer DUMPED. I found a file of photos taken at my friend Dr. CQ's wedding. It was May 2008, Little Stud #2 was about 4 months and some change.
This day I felt AMAZING! I loved my outfit, my hair, and all the photos from the day. I was postpartum but my confidence level was so high. It was a GREAT day! I had just begun running training for my first 5K, the pounds were starting to drop off. Yes I was heavy, about 220lbs, the weight did not matter, in my MIND I felt BEAUTIFUL. I was BEAUTIFUL, beauty is the way you THINK about yourself. I knew that I had pounds to lose, I had a plan, I held my head high.
I feel BLESSED because I THINK positive. I have a healthy self-esteem. Confident, but I truly NEVER thought I would get to my personal pie-in-the-sky goal weight. I mean NEVER!! But I did not let that stop me. Diet and Exercise mixed with positive thinking and a heck of a lot of pavement pounding. Today I feel as BEAUTIFUL inside as I did in 2008. The difference? My weight is HEALTHY, I have energy to play with our kids and teach them about Fitness. My clothes fit better and I can RUN the way I want to RUN.
  • What do you THINK about yourself?
  • Do those thoughts help you and make you feel good?
  • Or do you spend time beating yourself up and feeling down?
  • If you do not have positive thoughts. What can you do to change how you THINK about yourself?
  • What advise can you give others who may be struggling with low self-image?

My Advice if you chose to accept it:

1. THINK positive and believe in yourself, you need to be your own best friend.

2. Find ways to give yourself compliments and praise for things you HAVE accomplished.

3. Let minor setbacks go, dwelling on the negative will only pull you down.

4. If you don't like something about yourself create an action plan to change it.

5. If you are not willing to take the steps necessary to change, then don't beat yourself up. Live how you want to live and keep any negativity or self sabotage to yourself. Be who you are and be proud of who you are. Today, tomorrow and every day.

HAPPY SUNDAY!

33 comments:

Joy Blaylock said...

Awesome post! It took me way too many years, but I think about myself positively now and it is the best gift I could have given myself. What a change it has made in my whole life!

H Love said...

so true. great post! you beam happiness in both pics! so happy for you! You are going to need to change your blog to long and lean!

Twincerely,Olga said...

great post!! you looked beautiful then and now!!It took me awhile to really think that of myself but most days i do!!

Angie Bishop said...

Great post Mel! I needed to read this today and making notes on my desk to keep me focused on being positive! I believe it but don't practice it enough and have a tendency to be the negative.
You look fabulous in both photos! You have the same happiness in both :)

Kadie said...

Great post! I was just having this same conversation with a cousin yesterday and trying to get her to be happy with herself!

Kayla said...

I agree with the others. This is a great post and you look so beautiful in both posts. I always try to be positive, but this winter I started feeling down when clothes were starting to feel tight, etc. I've been more positive lately, but its always a good reminder to read a post like this!

Cynthia O'H said...

Great advice, Mel. The power of positive thinking.

jetcity said...

I love your outlook, and that you do indeed practice what you are preaching! It is a joy to read your blog, and I have gotten a lift in my spirits since following you. I believe you are what you think you are and if you have nothing but negative thoughts you will produce a negative outlook, and of course the opposite holds true. So why not be positive, what's the worst that could happen?

kat said...

Thanks for sharing that, much needed, I'm a positive person but can be impatient and sometimes get a bit mad with myself that I am not the weight I want to be or look like I want to be yet! But you've reminded me to keep positive and love every stage,bottom line it's still me, big or small, life is to be lived, not meander through miserably!
Thanks again.

carla said...

so so so flipping true.

we are, I AM, what we/I repeatedly think.


MizFit

Kimberly said...

Loved this post. I couldn't not comment. I am happy with myself. I can look in the mirror and feel happy. Sure, there are things I can change but when the thoughts get me down, I think about how far I've come (120 pounds and a half-marathon, almost 2). I also try to talk to myself the way I would talk to others, i.e. "Who cares if your stomach isn't flat? You have great (insert word here)."

TMB @ RACING WITH BABES said...

Crazy that you posted this. The same thing happened to me last week. I was throwing out some old stuff and came across all the photos from my Senior Photo Shoot from High School. I looked at the pictures and instantly hated them. Yet, when they were taken I LOVED THEM! I thought I was beautiful and never looked better. I too suffer from a positive outlook and confidence. But I think why I really didn't like them was because I was upset with myself for being OK with my old lifestyle. I hate that I let myself be so unhealthy when the choice was so easy to make.

Thanks for the therapy session.

Bethany + Ryan said...

Hey Mel, great post! I didnt feel so great abt myself while i was in high school, but i think thats normal. Now i think im smokin' hot...in my head at least. I dont flaunt it or dress in revealing clothing or anything, but in my head im very pleased with what i see asnd how i feel. Ryan makes a big difference too bc i know he thinks im totally hoty and pretty. That makes a big difference! B/w ryan and running/working out, i feel great! Im a positive person so things r always good. I feel complete happiness! If my life never got any better than this i would die thinking i had the best life ever! Thanks to ryry and running! :-P

Java Joggers said...

Awesome post... really inspirational! Someone very close to me is struggling with self-doubt, so I'm forwarding this to her as soon as I finish typing this... THANKS!

Tricia said...

loved this, thanks!

Carly said...

Great advice! All very true!

Denise said...

i really do admire people who have such a positive outlook on themselves. some people, me included, struggle so much and can't find a positive thing about themself. keep being such a positive role model to your kids, mel!!

Laura said...

LOVE THIS! You are such an inspiration.
I am at the point where I try to be positive and surround myself with positive people...
and not the toxic ones.

Marlene said...

Hard to believe that was you just two years ago. I love that you were so happy and confident... your smile says it all, then AND now!

Thanks for sharing some advice... these are things we all need to remember sometimes!

kimert said...

Awesome post! And it is definitely something I needed to hear (as well as work on). Thank you for sharing this! You are such an inspiration! Now I'm off to make a list of positives!!!

ShutUpandRun said...

Beautiful post. I think you are equally gorgeous in both photos, but I am glad that today you feel you are at a heathy weight for yourself. It is amazing to much how much our thoughts control our outlook. Being positive and being able to shrug off the small stuff (or sometimes even big stuff) is hugely important. I can't always do this, but I can say I'm pretty in touch with my brain and how it messes with me sometimes. I do lots of self talk to bring me back to a place of know that I am "okay".

Lacey Nicole said...

mel this is one of my favorite posts ever. ever ever. and i agree. and i accept :)

Kim said...

I think both photos are beautiful!

I've discovered that I bounce up and down in weight - not dramatically, but about 5-10 pounds or so. I'm on the upswing right now and I just... don't care. I feel great anyway! My husband loves me anyway! However, I do struggle still with self-esteem. It's an ongoing battle - the whole thing - from weight loss to self esteem to everything. Sigh.

S Club Mama said...

Right now I know that if I stopped losing weight altogether, I probably wouldn't be happy with it. I think I look great but I know that I really want to lose at least 10-20 more pounds. I think right now that not eating any more birthday cake will help. Too many birthdays in July. lol

shellyrm aka jogging stroller mama said...

Great topic. I know that I struggle with never being happy with how I look at a certain time, only to look back at pictures later and wonder why I wasn't happy then because I did look good. Currently I attempt to remember that it's about my total fitness and quality of life more than a number on a scale or in my jeans.

You look beautiful in then and now. I am happy that you have found a passion for life that keeps you and your family active and that usually means healthy and often means happy. They seem to go hand in hand.

Tammy said...

Thank you for this post. Very well stated.

Christina said...

Thank you for this post. I like the positive thinking you have going on. :)

KK @ Running Through Life said...

Awesome post Mel! You radiate confidence and are an inspiration!

Marci said...

Not commenting much these days, but I had comment on this post. Posts like this are important for all women because you are beutiful now and THEN, it radiates from within, well said!

littlemisspotato said...

You were and are absolutely stunning! Posts like this always make me cry and push me to stay focused on loving me too! :)

littlemisspotato said...

You were and are absolutely stunning! Posts like this always make me cry and push me to stay focused on loving me too! :)

5 Miles 2 Empty said...

Great post, Mel!!! Your gorge in both pics but you put in some SERIOUS work to get to where you are now!!!!! You should be super duper proud!!!

Wifey said...

Awesome post! Thanks for the motivating words. Oh, and both photos are beautiful!

Winks & Smiles,
Wifey